Quick Update

I haven't been on here in a while , not sure if anyone is even reading or following and I wouldn't blame you, its been 2 months.

Anyway wondering about our last cycle? It FAILED...I was no I AM incredibly still broken up about it. Currently everything is up in the air as far as the next step for us. I am not sure how I feel or if I want to deal with this again. I will be coming on here to add more later, talk about the WTF appointment (rolling my eyes) and to respond to a comment that I received. My emotions are still raw but I will be back on soon.

Happy New Year and baby dust for everyone still in the trenches.

5dp5dt

  

My beta is this thursday Nov 7th and I was going to hold out from blogging until the night before or the day of. There truly is nothing to report....well until yesterday.

Guess what I did like a freaking idiot? I tested and of course BFFN. Why oh Why did I let that stupid annoying little internal voice win. I used an Answer test.

I guess my nerves got the best of me but it didn't stop there oh no......... I went to a baby shower too, it's like I enjoy the torture apparently. I have been googling like crazy because I have barely any symptoms, I mean the breast tenderness is there, it comes and goes but it is probably due to the PIO injections, on 3dp5dt for maybe a minute I had some weird cramps in one area early in the morning around 3 or 4, then it stopped just as quickly. This wait is nuts, last time I tested at 6dp6dt and got my BFP but that blast was AH ( assisted hatched) so I kind of figured if it implanted it would show, now I do not know. The clinic gave us no grades or told us one way or another just showed us the blasts and then they were transferred and nothing to freeze.

I wonder, has anyone ever died from anxiety? I feel like I might :-)

                  5dp5dt Symptoms? or in my mind symptoms?

Today I was out of breath sweeping the floors

Lower back pains

Boob tenderness

Sleepy

*All but the out of breath probably the PIO*

Apart of me wants to know already and get it over with, and the other part would like to delay it and stay in ignorance, when the anxiety gets bad, I definitely get into prayer. I told myself no more POAS (peeing on a stick) but will I hold true to that? I dunno, we shall see.....

1dp5dt---thought I would share

First let me say I stayed home today, not for the sake of the 2 days bedrest recommended by the nurse even though I basically lounged around, but mainly because my boss thought I should. They know NOTHING of what I am doing, she just knows I had a procedure. I had a nosy co-worker asked me bluntly last thursday why I was out ( ER Day) and I said well it was nothing major, she insisted so I said well I have pain in my sides and that satisfied her. While I did not really lie, I was evasive. I actually had some pulling but it is due to my enlarged ovaries.

Yesterday I felt some cramping, and some dull ones today...no way to early for implantation so when the spirit of worry crept in I prayed and put on QVC. I am guessing it is due to the catheter used or my still swollen ovaries. I WILL NOT WORRY.

Anyway  I thought I would share this link..http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Fertility---Infertility---IVF/Advice-after-embryo-transfer---article/show/598015
Even though I did not need validation I thought it was important to share. The week my BFF found out she was 8 weeks pregnant, she had spent time in vegas drinking, we did pole fitness classes, she carried a heavy pole  and bags, you name it and guess what. NO DANGER to baby PLUS she did not know she was pregnant. I think it is important that we understand that there is nothing we can do, and no amount of laying down can guarantee a pregnancy.

Transfer Day and no frosties

So we had our embryo transfer today. Got there at 8:15, and had to empty my bladder LOL couldn't take it and then started to refuel..( brought Gatorade). Anyway the embryologist called us back to review the embryos, one page had 2 perfect blasts and the other a bunch of others, my guess is 6-8.

He said well these are your two blasts and the others are not viable, and won't make it to freeze so will be discarded, we were not given grades or even a picture but from my research on Dr. Google I saw no fragmentation and quite frankly wont drive myself crazy thinking about it. He spoke quickly ( think salesman), shoved a paper in front of us to sign and was off. I said to my husband " But there are others on the paper that look like blasts too" my husband said well he is the professional and we only need 1 which is true but at the end of the day  I AM NOT CONVINCED, not in the least bit. (more on this later)

Not our Blasts just an example of what blasts look like for those who need to know

The Transfer

This part went smoothly and overall it was not too bad, uncomfortable yes, and I didn't have to fill up my bladder too much, THANK GOD. My favorite nurse assisted the doctor and we got a picture of our little ones aka peanut butter & jelly. Even though I wanted to pee like crazy, they said I need to lay there for 15 minutes, I overachieved and went to 20. When I went to pee, boy was I there long. Anyway I am currently in bed, bored, taking it easy, but going out of my mind. This bed rest thing is driving me nuts. Yeah am definitely heading to work tommorrow. I mean my last cycle-even though I had a miscarriage, I was up and in Manhattan in NYC, got on the subway and then bus BEFORE I got to rest and the next day spent it walking the city. I will take it easy but it won't matter \one way or the other. Also my lining was 15MM and he said I could do the PIO shots.............YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY........

Beta is 11/7th and I have plenty to keep me busy..I hope I can remain as I am today,m prayerful, thankful, blessed and hopeful.

Back to the Embryologist- We were just there Sunday, I had so many even further than 8 cell, while yes it could be true that the rest are not viable, for some reason I just didn't believe it.

Denial?-Maybe

There lab-perhaps?

It's free so they are doing the bare minimum-Well the thought crossed my mind but SART numbers would affect them so...hmmmm not sure

Is it because he didn't show them to us and covered the paper and then took it when he walked out for a minute without actaully "SHOWING" us them-DING DING DING. This was the face I gave DH

A disclaimer for the winning of this cycle states " The doctor can cancel the cycle at any time without explanation". This was the reason I didn't think too much of it but nobody wants to hear..."oh we will discard the rest, they won't be viable and able to freeze".  Something inside me told me it just was not true...I could be wrong, or in denial but my intuition tells me I am dead on. Anyway send up your prayers for our implanted embies. I have no fear and anxiety, I suppose what will be will be. How I will feel in another week I am not sure but for now...am good. I better get back to "resting"

Cycle Update

Just some random facts

So we drove an hour to our clinic this morning our appt was at 7:45 am, sat down for 10 or maybe 15 mins before the Doctor over the Embryology dept called us back to inform us that we still have quite a few embryos still going strong, including 7 that were fertilized normally ( they didn't do ICSI) on. He told us we can go home and the transfer will be on Tuesday. So it appears a 5 day blastocyst transfer it is. 

As we were walking to the elevator, a lady walked up to us ( I have seen in her the waiting room every time I am there). She asked how my cycle was and I said ok but I have to come back Tuesday, I mentioned I hate Endometrin and she said she was taking it and her lining is only 5. She asked me what was mine and I replied 10, which it was when they last checked on Tuesday. I felt so bad for her, she looked crushed, she said well they plan to freeze them and do another cycle. I wanted to just shake myself, I felt TERRIBLE for saying my last lining number, just should have been evasive, but DH said I am being too hard on myself, he pointed out " she bluntly asked and you had no choice" I still feel terrible but I say a prayer for her and myself for a successful cycle. I see the hurt in her eyes, I know that hurt. This time around I seriously have given it to God, so no worrying for me, it won't change the outcome. I have claimed the victory on this.

 I did tell DH I am very concerned that I started progesterone support 2 days after ER (most people start the same day) but my biggest concern is not being able to really push the Endometrin in. I hate them but I will deal with it for now and not complain. I have nothing exciting happening right now really. Taking my medrol as prescribed.

Fert Report

Well of the 29 Eggs retrieved, the Doctor called to tell me that 21 Fertilized normally and doing great. I was advised that a nurse will call me today with instructions to come in Sunday. He said they want us in on Sunday to prepare for a 3 day transfer but more than likely it will be tuesday for a 5 day. While I am not ecstatic for a 3 day transfer as I know from past experience that a 5 day embryo is stronger most times, well according to New Hope in New York, but I know that LOTS of women get pregnant on 3 day transfers... I am excited, praying and hoping that we have 2 great blasts to transfer on tuesday and also the funds to pay for freezing as I am already "believing" that we WILL have great frosties. In the event we will need to either do this again or for siblings.

At the moment I am at work but slightly sore, still bloated, still chugging Gatorade. The more I pee the better I feel. My tummy is swollen though, 3 months pregnant, but that was since the night prior to transfer and no weight gain so am fine. I will update tommorrow once I get the other call on how they are doing, and tommorrow I start Edometrin ( YUCK), Medrol and Estrace.

Egg Retrieval Day....they got...

29 EGGS....I am completely surprised and blown away. I swear Doctor A only counted maybe 10-15 during the monitoring appointments I have been to, and 15 is being generous on my part. As a matter of fact I was and AM still only slightly bloated, but to be honest it feels more gassy ( sorry TMI) than anything else. I know that all won't be mature but still I was NOT expecting that. I have been alternating between Powerade, Gatorade, and Coconut Water all day, I am not sure if I am at risk but I am taking all precautions to avoid OHSS.

The procedure was painless and quick but I was out like a light. Everyone was nice and my favorite nurse wheeled me out to the car, Nurse S. We were out by 11:15 which is later than anticipated but hey it all went well over all. No one mentioned anything about freezing and the money but I hope they call tomorrow with great fertilization news. We will cross all the other bridge when we get there and just take it one day at a time...

Okay heading to bed now....I really didn't rest up like I should have today but did take it easy on the couch for the rest of the day. Keep us in your prayers for a great fert report.

Pre-Egg Retrieval Rant

As I noted in my intro to the right we won a free IVF cycle since May and are just cycling and about to embark on ER tommorrow. We feel blessed and since Insurance does not cover any of this, doubly blessed for this opportunity and our luck; however I was well prepared to have to deal with some BS along the way and we have and not surprised by it, it's life. At the end of the day, the good far outweigh the bad.

Begin Rant

But today kind of took the cake enough for me to blog about it. I get a call at 1 today advising me that when I come in the morning I will need to pay $900 upfront if we have any embryos for freezing..... WHAT? I bluntly told the nurse, are you kidding me? We will NOT have $900 in the morning and why are we JUST being told this now? She rambled something off and said well the Doctor asked me to call you and tell you today. At first I was pissed ( wait I still kind of am), I called DH and let him know and he said well don't you have faith, perhaps it won't be an issue after all. Well it is an issue for me..$900 is not a lot of money but at the same time it is when it is NOT available. If we were told a head of time, oh I don't know, perhaps in May, June, July, August, September and oh yeah the beginning of the cycle to expect this cost then it wouldn't be a problem but to call us less than 24 hours of ER to tell us this now is HIGHLY ridiculous and crazy. Per DH when we get there they will either work with us on a 2 payment plan or not at all and thats that but I am royally pissed. Why do this to people at the last minute? I realize it is a FREE cycle, one we won, that was being offered but what I did not mention was prior to us actually winning this cycle, we consulted there because we were going to finance this. At the end of this I planned to provide the break down of the cost of our "FREE IVF CYCLE" as nothing is ever truly free, even the beginning monitors I had to pay co-pay with my insurance...in retrospect this cycle was not entirely free just cheaper than it would have been had we paid all together and upfront to start. I have decided to let it go, pray and will let God handle this situation and like DH said, "they will either work with us or they won't," I am just flabbergasted that someone would call at the last minute to tell us this but hey....such is life, and it could be worse, and you know what I am preparing for worse when I get there so I am not surprised when we get there.

I am grateful and thankful for this journey, it is our next shot and we pray "THE SUCCESSFUL" shot but a back up plan would be fantastic. Thankful for nurse S that has been so kind and patient with me through all of this. I pray that it works out that we get to freeze some and if not then, I guess not. No need to stress this...the devil is a liar and what will be will be.

End Rant

**Side Note**
I am bloated and can definitely feel my ovaries and cannot wait for them to get these follies out, here's to a great day tommorrow with nothing but smooth sailing. If you come across this please keep us in your prayers.

TRIGGER

We triggered it's 12:30 am Wednesday with 7500 IU of Novarel HCG and I am currently super sleepy  but here's a quick recap of the prior day. My final monitor check was yesterday ( Tuesday morning @ 7:15.am.) My lead follicle was 27MM, a fee 20's and a few 19's with still a few 16's, 17's and even 10's.....those lazy follies..LOL-overall I think 12-14 follies were announced out loud. I was given  a prescription for after ER of Estrace and Medrol.....transfer set for thursday 10/24 @ 9:00 am.

Doctor A asked if I was in pain and to be honest no....I am bloated but not really uncomfortable...weird. I was told that depending on my blood results it is very possible I would trigger with Lupron ( did not have) and would have to pick up at the local specialty pharmacy for $200. Lupron trigger is typically used to prevent OHSS....uhhhmmmm WHAT. I am all for this but why not say it earlier just in case...the thought of the $100 Novarel going down the drain is unsettling, I called DH and he basically said ( which is true) what difference does it make? Even if we have to get the $200 shot at this point there is nothing we can do but go with it. He was right and we would gladly pay it to get to the next phase. Anyway trigger done, bum slightly sore.

Nurse called I am to trigger with HCG, ( Praise God), at 7500 IU, everything is a go and E2 is 5254. I will do everything I can to avoid OHSS. Promptly after ER I will get some Gatorade and start the protein...I should go to sleep. Long day ahead..

Stim Day 9 Check

Stim  Day 9, Monitor check #2

So yesterday ( Sunday morning)  I had my second monitor check and things are good per the doctor , but I sense while good they are not great. My E2 is 2350, which is good since it almost tripled from 3 days prior but I have just 1 at 20mm; I have maybe 2 at 17, a few 15’s & 16’s but still 13’s, 14’s and quite a bit under 10. WHAT? Still under 10…Geesssshhh.  All in all I think 8-10 measurable follies for the count today.  I am trying not to freak out and worry about it. My lining is 10. I will be stimming for 2 more days  lowering the Gonal-F from 225 to 188 and upping the Menopur from 75 IU    to 150 IU     for 2 nights. I started the Cetrotide last night so I have 2 more nights to go on that one. It did not sting as I was ex  pecting from all the things I read online….it felt no different than  the Menopur that also has not stung.

My nex  t check is Tuesday 10/ 22; trigger the same day and Egg R   etrieval 10/ 24^th  this is all pending a good ultrasound Tuesday. I am PRRIAYNG that many of the follies catch up within the 2 days of additional stimming. I am fine with at least 20 follies but a minimum of 12 mature so we can work with. I know most women would want much more but 12 GOOD ones is fine with us..that is 6 tries ( if we put 2 in and if they are all good enough to freeze) I want this to work on the first go though…I would do it all over again if I had to but would prefer NOT to.  I am ready for the nex  t phase….I am ready to be pregnant and then mommy.

Today I saw  an  acquaintance I haven’t seen for 4 months and she is very pregnant and invited me and DH to her baby shower in 2 weeks….OUU   CH.   I am happy for her but my first thoughts were just great and here I still am..not pregnant…but then I thought come on follies grow…I need YOU    now more than ever to be healthy, do what you need to do inside my body , and be healthy most of all.  I guess I would feel better if  by the time she gave birth I am pregnant…please let this be true. Please let my Christmas gift to my family this year be me being healthy, and pregnant with twins.

1st Monitor Check

Today I had Stim Day 6 check & Ultrasound

Dr. A did my ultrasound this morning and he seemed pleased with the results but wants my follies bigger. My lining was 8.3 mm, which he said was "great." Since I had many follicles, all about the same size, this was considered to be good too.

Follies show anywhere from 7 to 13 mm or was there a 14 in there too? Hmmm honestly I cannot remember but 11’s-12’s were the average. He was calling out numbers to the nurse and it was going too fast I couldn’t catch on…but the shocker is that majority of them were in Righty……yeah I called her lazy at baseline check 10/4^th and I guess I should take it back, lefty is now the one lagging behind. I guess they don’t work well together? LOL I am trying to keep a positive attitude about all of this otherwise I will worry, ok who am I kidding? I did worry, prayed and then felt peace and when I feel worry try to creep in again, I keep my thoughts occupied with thoughts of strollers, maternity clothes, and the changes my body is going through with these meds.

Anyway the original “planned ER” was Tuesday 10/22 (this was news to me) however the doctor said based on what the results are today for my E2 he “may” have me start on Cetrotide Saturday night, but for sure he thinks I will be doing an additional day of Stims ( I had to have them order from Freedom) and also he said he is now looking at Thursday 10/24^th. I suppose he wanted me to stop stims Sunday night but I will have to do Monday and then ER will be Wednesday or Thursday I will know more Sunday, the irony is I barely have any bloat but I think by Sunday I may be singing another tune….grow follies grow.

My next monitoring appointment is bright and early Sunday morning @ 7:15 am WTH!

I am so glad that I have a lot of work to do right now. It's the only thing that is keeping me sane.

I will update more later with the E2 levels once the nurse calls.

***Update***
E2 is 872 and the nurse said that is great at this level...so will Yay Yay...I am slightly, very slightly bloated.